Who doesn’t want to be happy and search for that ever eluding happiness has landed you to this article.
However, if you let someone steal your happiness on a continuing and ongoing basis then you can perhaps never be a happy person.
Here, I want to share a few practical tips for eliminating the people who steal your happiness from your life.
Need not to say, this requires some action at your part.
As we all know that distance between you and your success in any endeavor is – ACTION.
Apply 80/20 rule-
If you eliminate 20% of people responsible for your unhappiness from your life, then this will result in making you more than 80% happier.
Have you ever noticed that in large reservoir of your friends and relatives only few are the continuous source of almost all of your happiness. You feel flowers blossoming inside you whenever you come in contact with such people.
And similarly, there are only certain number of people who are responsible for almost all of your unhappiness. You just come in their contact and expect the expected. Your happiness is gone! As if someone has thrown a bucket of water on a brightly lit up candle.
These are the people who are stealing your happiness. They suck your happiness. Don’t allow them to do so. Don't let them steal your happiness. Don’t allow anyone to steal your happiness.
The way out for not letting anyone steal your happiness-
If you want to lead a life full of happiness then you have to find hot some action plan for the people who steal your happiness.
But how can you accomplish that? What to do? So what you do with the unprofitable customers? What you do with non selling products? And what you do with unproductive, nuisance making employees?
You got the idea – you get rid of them. You weed them out from your so passionately created business.
In the same manner, you have to weed out these suckers of your happiness from your life.
And for protecting your happiness from such persons ACTION is required, which I have discussed in introductory paragraphs of this article.
This action part is the most necessary part for protecting your happiness and is not that difficult as you think. Lack of this action part is the distance between you and your happiness. So go for it now. How it sounds going like this –
List the people who steal your happiness, for action-
First, make a list of people, interaction with them make you sore. You know that every interaction with such people will leave you unhappy. Of course, people who are cause of most of your unhappiness will top the list and further in that order.
Make another list, on the same lines this time of the people who are the source of your happiness, every time you interact with them you feel rejuvenated, bursting with joy.
The idea is to realize that these are the people, on two lists, who on the one list are responsible for your most of the unhappiness and on the other list responsible for most of the joy in your life.
Make lists in writing.
Making a list in writing is important. Just knowing it in your mind is not enough.
As when you write something down then ideas come out of your mind and in the realm of reality.
From this stage it is easy for you to take action on these ideas.
The action of making a list in writing is an indication to your mind that you are serious about happiness.
Then your mind registers this indication and responds with generating wonderful ideas for achieving your goals.
Well, now is the time to work on these two lists. And here comes the Pareto Principal in picture.
As you have already created the first list in which you listed people who are responsible for your unhappiness. In the order of who is responsible for most of your unhappiness on the top.
If you start working on only two or three people listed on the top of the list, it will take roughly 80 to 90 percent of unhappiness out of your life.
Who are listed on the top of the list responsible for your unhappiness? A less cultured boss who humiliates you? A close relative who is disrespectful and doesn’t care for your emotions? A colleague, who always makes fun of you, laughs at you and ironically calls himself a friend of yours.
Don’t let these people or anyone else steal your happiness.
Take action to not letting people steal your happiness-
Take action. Gather courage.
Let these people know that you are a changed person now. Don’t wait until they do one more act of hurting you. Be proactive this time. Go to them and say politely but firmly that the way they treat you is hurtful to you.
Let them know what you feel like when they hurt you.
And if possible desert them. Get rid of them.
Believe me such negative people FEED on your politeness, on your gentleness; on the goodness you possess inside of you. Stop accepting them, and stop FEEDING them.
The other way out to deal with the people who steal your happiness-
If your personality type doesn’t allow you to take courage and get the people, who steal your happiness, out from your life or desert them, which I still think is the best way out to deal with such people, then take the strategy which matches your personality type.
To learn more about personality types please read this article.
However, as I have already discussed that changing personality type is hard if not impossible. But unfortunately the same phenomenon applies to your tormentors as well.
I wish you unbounded happiness.